Apr 30

The Crush Club

This is about finding connection ๐ŸŒŸ, not matches.

This is an online dating experiment where we do the swiping for you. The catch? Sign-up, fill out our survey, and answer honestly. From there, weโ€™ll help you find people around the city that youโ€™d vibe with.

In fact, you will be invited to parties to meet these folks. All you have to do is show up, be yourself, and make new connections. ๐Ÿšซ No profiles, no swiping, and no more cheesy pick-up lines. All that stuff is just a game.

When you get an invite, weโ€™ll let you take a peek at the guest list. If you RSVP, youโ€™ll be added to a group chat to get know a bit about each other 24 hours before the event. This is the only moment youโ€™ll spend talking to people online, the rest will unfold at the event.

Crush Club events will take place in secret locations across Manhattan. This is not a speed dating event. This is a party โ€” full of interesting and like-minded folks, carefully curated based on interests, values, and community groups. Itโ€™s like meeting the tribe you didnโ€™t know you were a part of.

We believe in the law of attraction. If you focus on being your authentic self, then you will naturally attract the right kind of people around you. Donโ€™t they say it just happens when you arenโ€™t trying too hard? Just keep it ๐Ÿ’ฏ.

Online dating is more complicated than it needs to be. It has given us unrealistic expectations and more anxiety about finding โ€œthe oneโ€. Well, the Ancient Greeks had a more holistic definition of love, they identify 6 types:

  • ๐Ÿ’‹ ๐Ÿ‘… ๐Ÿ”ฅ Sexual passion (Eros)
  • ๐Ÿค— ๐Ÿค ๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉ Deep friendship (Philia)
  • ๐Ÿ™ˆ ๐Ÿ‘ฏ โšฝ๏ธ Playful love (Ludus)
  • ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ˜‡ ๐ŸŒˆ Selfless love (Agape)
  • ๐Ÿ’— ๐Ÿ’ซ ๐Ÿ’ Longstanding love (Pragma)
  • ๐Ÿ’– ๐Ÿ’† ๐Ÿ‘‘ Self-Love (Philautia)

The more you enrich your life with these types of relationships, the more you will thrive. Crush Club is meant for you to find all 6 forms, but it begins with a crush โ€” that initial moment where you meet and feel a connection with someone. So you might make a new friend, find your business partner, or even your next date.

Itโ€™s time to approach online dating differently, are you up for it?

๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜ Click here to get started ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜

FAQs ๐Ÿค”

๐ŸŽ‰ When are these events happening?

ASAP! The more people sign up the better. Tell all your friends! Iโ€™m hoping to throw the first Crush Club event as early as next week April 14th. Please note that you might not be invited to the first event. It depends if we have enough for certain pools of people. So please, tell all your friends!

๐Ÿคทโ€ Who are you inviting to these parties?

Based on your survey results, I will try to curate guests lists based on shared values, interests, and communities. However, I will also make sure the guest list is diverse and inclusive!

๐Ÿ˜ณ Why are you asking so many questions?

We want to make sure we connect you people you get along with. Youโ€™re only going to do this once. No need to download an app. All you get are invites. It seems a lot but itโ€™s really minimal effort down the road. Pro-tip: Answer the survey honestly, that will improve your results!

๐Ÿ”ฎ How do you decide who is invited?

We match people based on shared values and passions. I also compare big 5 personality traits (the 20 questions). I am referencing psychology theory from Dr. Michal Kosinksiโ€™s research. His work indicates that humans prefer to bond with people who have similarities in these areas. I wonโ€™t bore you with the science but if you are curious, let me know so we can nerd out.

๐Ÿ™„ I donโ€™t do well in social gatherings

Every Crush Club event will have a host to help facilitate things. When you arrive at the event, there will be some icebreakers to make it easier for you to chat with folks. Donโ€™t worry, weโ€™ll be there to support you!

๐Ÿ™† Why are you doing this?

My name is Ruth, Iโ€™m doing my Masters in Interaction Design at SVA. For the past 7 months, Iโ€™ve been studying Online Dating for my thesis. Iโ€™ve analyzed this topic through the lens of design, psychology, neuroscience, economics, and behavioural science. After hearing my friends and everyone around complain about online dating, I thought Iโ€™d look for opportunities to improve human interaction and connection.

๐Ÿค“ I want to learn more about your work

I have documented some of my major lessons, insights, and other dating experiments on my blog: Tinder Lovinโ€™.

๐Ÿ™‹ Have more questions?

Feel free to reach out on Twitter: @ruthtupe

๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜ Click here to get started ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜ ๐Ÿ’˜

1:00 pm13:00

The LOVE Parade NYC

The LOVE Parade NYC

The Love Parade NYC combines of random acts of kindness with activism. We gather to connect & spread love through gift giving on the streets.

NOW is the only time we have to make the decision that is going to improve our lives and change our world.

We have more technology + knowledge than ever before to solve the problems of Earth. Studies prove that people donโ€™t change their minds because the facts and resources are there - People change their mind when they have a change of heart. We are creating an ACT OF BEAUTY on the streets to WAKE PEOPLE UP to the evolution through compassion, peace, and unity!

Joyful play + compassion + connection + spreading love in the form of gifts

Event Details:
 Union Square, NYC from 1-3pm for meditation and inspiration from guest speakers, including our founder, Christina Weber
March: Walking west on 14th Street to Highline Park. We give flowers as gifts and share smiles to create a small change of heart that will have a ripple effect into our cherished community.
Party: Take the "L"OVE Train to House of Yes (8th Ave to the Jefferson Stop) Details coming soon.
Workshops: Learn more about Choose Love Now workshops that combine education with mindfulness to empower direct action. Summer series starting in May.

Join the Facebook community: facebook.com/events/757314034445984

What to Bring:
- Flowers for gift-giving.
- Bring your pets!
- Bring your children!

What to Wear:
Colorful clothing!
Dress in your team color!

This is a sustainable event. No balloons. No confetti. Clean up after your neighbors.

Learn more about Love Parade NYC: loveparade.co

8:00 pm20:00

The Great Love Debate Returns to NYC!

  • StandupNY

The Great Love Debate returns to New York City! 

"If you truly want to stop being single, you should start by seeing this show!" - BroadwayWorld

Guys seated on the left, girls seated on the right, at this wild, feisty, hilarious, interactive theatrical experience where the audience, hosts, and celebrity guests try to answer the question, "Why is everyone still single?โ€

This show will sell out, all tickets must be purchased in advance - get them here! 

This show will be recorded as live audience event for The Great Love Debate Podcast! 

Post-show meet and greet & party immediately afterward for all attendees. 

Hosted by Brian Howie"America's #1 Dating Enthusiast" - Time Magazine

And featuring an on-stage lineup of NYC's most dynamic specialists & personalities!


For press tickets & media inquiries, please email us greatlovedebate@gmail.com

6:30 pm18:30

Curated Table @ The Orphaned Starfish Gala

  • Cipriani Wall Street


You're invited to join our curated table of men + women for a magical
evening of connection and charitable giving. 

Tickets: $500-$1,000
Email Christina directly with interest at:

The Orphaned Starfish Foundation (OSF) Gala raises funds for OSF programs for orphans and victims of abuse in 23 countries. It brings together over 500 supporters from the world of business and entertainment including corporate and media executives, bankers, lawyers, hoteliers, and hedge-fund managers. Seven children from their programs will be joining us at the gala this year too. They will have a child from Haiti, Panama, Costa Rica, Colombia, Chile, Mexico, and Brazil.

The Foundation creates change in the lives of over 9,500 orphans, victims of abuse and poverty worldwide by helping them develop the skills and tools to succeed - such as life training, computer basics, robotics, programming, web design and more. They help provide internships, scholarships, job training and job placement. To date, they have developed 46 computer training centers.

Together, we are the parents of the world! 

7:00 pm19:00

Awaken Together Tomorrow

  • Zen House

World-Renowned Healers, Alyson Charles and Ssanyu Birigwa's
Thursday, October 20th, 7:00-8:30p // Zen House: 165 Allen Street, NYC
Exclusive 50% off promo code for Underground Unattached Community: UUTribe1020

Underground Unattached is changing form. 

Rather than being just a "Curated Dating Experience," our focus is now community. You'll hear more once we're ready to share; however,
through the transition, we crave connection.

Join us tomorrow for a powerfully immersive & educational experience!

We're merging reiki, breathwork, and guided meditations to cultivate prosperity. We're going to meet our spirit animals!

You will leave with the tools to:

~ Let go,
~ Create pause and peace,
~ Energetically ground yourself and,
~ Cultivate gratitude to allow your truest gifts to shine.

Best of all, we'll do it together!

Experience limited to 50 humans. Space available for 14 more.
Use promo code: UUTribe1020.

Xo, Christina